It's true that I've been pre-occupied with the GLB-only version of the Employment Non-Discrimination Act. (ENDA). I think about it wherever I go, and wonder how it is that we've come to this place where the nation's largest gay (and I use this word intentionally) organization has been willing to support a strategy that divides our community from itself.
And so, I was ready for a distraction this morning when Marta suggested that we go to a movie. We went for maximum distraction -- 108 minutes of John and Joan Cusack in Martian Child.
I loved Bobby Coleman as Dennis, the Martian Child, adopted by John Cusack. And I'm betting that many of you will join me in recognizing and understanding his character, the odd kid, who literally spends his days in a box. As time goes on, the box gets bigger, and the character, Dennis, learns to play "non-Martian" where it matters -- in school and at the important adoption hearing. He learns to save his "Martian" self, style, dance and language, for home.
At the end of the film, Dennis goes off, intending to return to Mars. He realizes in that special Hollywood way that he is already home. Home, he learns, is where people love you, where they embrace you, and where they never ever leave you. And where, truly, in your family, you can be your glorious Martian self.
You can judge for yourself about whether Dennis is a Martian or simply feels like a Martian. At the end of the film, the John Cusack character isn't quite sure about the answer. He just knows that he's not going to leave the kid behind, no matter what.
I'm not sure what happens to the kid after the movie ends. Will he assimilate? Will dad tell him that he should play "non-Martian" to stay safe or get ahead in school or on the job? Will he be the first Martian president of the United States?
In this Congress, ENDA did not have a happy Hollywood ending. There is one thing upon which the United States Congress and the Human Rights Campaign agree: if we can't assimilate in the workplace, we should stay in the box.
PS. A reader tipped off the blog, After Elton, to an interesting development in the journey of gay author David Gerrold's semi-autobiographical book The Martian Child to movie screens. Even a book by a gay man about life as a single father, had to play straight to be made for the big screen.